Ever find yourself in a conversation where your partner says something that’s just… wrong? Maybe they misremember what you said or twist the facts—and you’re thinking, “I can’t let that slide.”

In this episode, we’re digging into that moment—the one that either leads to resolution or kicks off a recycled fight. I’ll walk you through why correcting your partner (even when they’re wrong) often backfires, and what to do instead to actually resolve issues without triggering defensiveness or disconnection.

I’m also sharing a personal story from my own relationship (yes, I had to admit I was wrong 😅), a powerful takeaway from Jim Jamm’s TED Talk, and my go-to exercise I use in the therapy room to help couples get clear on what really matters in a disagreement.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why telling your partner they’re wrong doesn’t usually help—and what works better
  • How defensiveness gets in the way of connection and what it’s really protecting
  • Why curiosity is more powerful than correction when it comes to resolving conflict
  • The 6-step framework I use with clients to move out of gridlock and into meaningful conversation
  • The one exception when correcting your partner might actually be helpful 😉

Bottom line?
You don’t need to win the fight. You need to figure out what matters most, understand what’s really going on beneath the argument, and decide who you want to be in the middle of it.

Links & Resources:
👉 Jim Jamm’s TED Talk on Defensiveness
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